THE FAIRY TALE TRAP
What Is It
The fairy tale trap is when you expect your ideal partner to magically appear without any effort on your part. And then you believe that you both will live happily ever after. A person in this trap is saying—“if I am meant to meet someone, they will just appear.”
What We See In Our Practice
Although we were not caught in this trap, we encounter people caught in this dating trap in our coaching practice. Frequently it shows up couched in New Age terminology such as “everything is in divine order.” Even people who believe that everything is in divine order take action to improve their life, such as exercising, eating properly and improving their educational skills. We are not advocating stressing out or straining, we are merely recommending taking steps in the direction of your desire to change yoiur dating destiny and have love.
How To Get Out Of The Fairy Tale Trap
Take personal responsibility for what you want in your life and relationship. Become proactive instead of sitting back in La La Land. Think about what steps you can take to increase your chances of meeting someone–and then take those steps. Change some of your habits to mix things up a bit. For example, go to a different coffee shop at a different time. This piece of advice will definitely get you out of the Fairy Tale trap—your thoughts lead to action, action leads to achievement and achievement leads to fulfillment and happier dating.
All the best,
Diane and Lewis