Category: Happy Relationships

One Tip for Intimacy (In Today’s Busy World)

Have your mornings lost their passion and connection? Do you find yourself rushing out of bed and out the door having barely spoken to your partner? Or are you so exhausted from your day that you fall asleep before hugging, kissing or connecting with your partner? We and many couples we talk to have lives that are so busy and hectic, that they barely stop, to look at each other and connect.

One day I went to our bookshelf and there was the “The Tao of Sexology” by Dr. Stephen T. Chang. I was reminded about the Morning and Evening Prayer. It’s a way to connect in busy times. Lewis and I like it for that very reason. We don’t do it every day and sometimes a week or two will go by but we are happy when we do take the time for this practice.

In a nutshell, a couple lays together naked for about 5 minutes with lips locked. The man does penetrate the woman and you breathe together. There is an energetic flow that feels good. This technique is simple, intimate and best of all can be tailored to your time frame.

Good Luck !

Relationships And Divorce ( sad stuff )

Today two friends of mine posted a precious picture of them with their new granddaughter. Many years ago they divorced and to see them together with this bundle of joy made me feel sad and happy and think–darn- why do people have to divorce.

So to those of you not married yet-I say PLEASE think about what you are doing before you take this monumental step. Make sure you understand and know your requirements, needs, your values and that you have some vision for your future and that the person you are with is in alignment with that.

I think the people on this planet would be happier if there were less divorces.   Blessings to all.

 

Communication Tips -Assumptions-(Beware)

I teach Physical Education at a private school in the mornings.  I was teaching and playing kickball outside with my 9 and 10 year old students.

As we were walking back  to the school building Mary walked up next to me and told me that Jane was mad at her.  “How do you know that?” I  asked. ”She looks kind of mad or something,” answered Mary.

“Gee,”  I said to myself.  I do this and I certainly see the same happening to my clients: making assumptions. I suggested that she find Jane and ask  her if there was anything wrong. She did and a few minutes later Mary came running back to me to tell me that Jane was sad because her mom was out of town. Jane asked Mary if she could play after school!

Here is the powerful point. Ask before making assumptions to avoid misinterpretations and self projections.

Dating Advice-Avoid The Fairy Tale Trap-(Date Consciously)

THE FAIRY TALE TRAP

What Is It

The fairy tale trap is when you expect your ideal partner to magically appear without any effort on your part. And then you believe that you both will live happily ever after. A person in this trap is saying—“if I am meant to meet someone, they will just appear.”

What We See In Our Practice

Although we were not caught in this trap, we encounter people caught in this dating trap in our coaching practice. Frequently it shows up couched in New Age terminology such as “everything is in divine order.” Even people who believe that everything is in divine order take action to improve their life, such as exercising, eating properly and improving their educational skills. We are not advocating stressing out or straining, we are merely recommending taking steps in the direction of your desire to change yoiur dating destiny and have love.

How To Get Out Of The Fairy Tale Trap

Take personal responsibility for what you want in your life and relationship. Become proactive instead of sitting back in La La Land. Think about what steps you can take to increase your chances of meeting someone–and then take those steps. Change some of your habits to mix things up a bit. For example, go to a different coffee shop at a different time. This piece of advice will definitely get you out of the Fairy Tale trap—your thoughts lead to action, action leads to achievement and achievement leads to fulfillment and happier dating.

All the best,

Diane and Lewis

 

The Marketing Dating Trap-What Is It-Learn More About the Marketing Dating Trap (Avoid It Now)

1.       WHAT IS IT

In the marketing trap you believe that you need to make yourself more appealing and “sell” yourself with an attractive packaging or presentation. The bottom line and the sad thing here is you have told yourself that you cannot be yourself. The risk: disappointment, anger and relationship failure.

 2.       WHAT WAS IT LIKE FOR ME

Diane talks about the Marketing Trap.  I could write a book on the time I have spent in this trap! I probably could have won saleswoman of the year award! 

 Here are a few examples of the things I did to make myself more appealing. 

  •    I was overly agreeable.
  •    I rarely expressed an opinion. My line was “I don’t care, or “That’s OK.”
  •    I wanted to always appear nice so never expressed anger or disappointment.
  •    I was overly helpful.

  Maybe you show more cleavage, leg, or muscle than normal. If it’s for marketing – beware!   Maybe you pretend you have more or less money than you do, maybe you say yes when you really mean no.  If you are doing this and more; you are in the Marketing Trap.

           Let’s face it we are human and we want to love and be loved.   Just don’t be false. The results are devastating. 

  •       When the “sizzle” starts to settle into reality one of you is left disappointed and angry. 
  •       Exhaustion sets in. Being fake is a waste of energy and bad for our health.
  •        It’s unfair not to be honest-more hearts are at risk of being hurt.

3.       HOW TO GET OUT OF IT

            Getting out of the marketing trap is a two word answer: BE AUTHENTIC. 

            Be yourself, no faking, no lying.

            Face and deal with any fears you have around being authentic.  The basis for any love is self love. 

 Be Authentic! No more Marketing!

 

 

Madly In Love Forever » For Singles 2012-09-10 16:23:36

THE EXCITEMENT IS BUILDING!

 

Four weeks from today, I will be leaving the peace and quiet of Fairfield, IA (population 10,000), to give six workshops in six days.  I am looking to connect with three groups of people: men, women and couples (did I leave anyone out?). 

One of the workshops is geared exclusively for men, The Power of Presence and Choice.   Let’s face it men, we are the weaker sex and I want to help us check up to the women on this planet.

  • Syracuse, NY on Tuesday, October 9, 7:30pm, CNY Healing Arts Wellness Center and Spa. 191 Intrepid Lane, Syracuse, NY 13205
  • Albany, NY on Wednesday, October 10, 7:30pm, Albany area location TBA
  • Bozrah, Connecticut on Saturday, October 13, 1pm, The Centerspace Wellness Studio 46 Lebanon Road, Bozrah, CT 06334

The second workshop is for men and women, Responsible Speaking, Effective Listening for Deeper Relationships.   In my humble opinion, everyone can benefit from clearer communication.

  • Syracuse, NY on Monday, October 8, 7:30pm, CNY Healing Arts Wellness Center and Spa. 191 Intrepid Lane, Syracuse, NY 13205
  • Albany, NY on Thursday, October 11, 7:30pm, Unity Church. 21 King Avenue, Albany, NY 12206

Finally, my week on the road culminates with a workshop for committed couples, Rituals for Intimacy.  Even couples who are Madly In Love Forever will discover a few tricks for nurturing their precious connection.

  • Bozrah, Connecticut on Saturday, October 13, 8pm, The Centerspace Wellness Studio 46 Lebanon Road, Bozrah, CT 06334

I am looking forward to making new friends and re-uniting with old friends.  Although I will only be visiting three cities on this trip, I do plan to visit all fifty states of this great country by the end of 2013.

If you are live near these cities and want to invite me to speak at your group, please call me at 800-639-4505.

Do you want to know about other events near you? Then join this blog list, if you are not already on it.

 

All the best,

Lewis Denbaum

Relationship Success Expert/Author/Educator/Motivational Speaker

1848 Prairie Rose Circle

Fairfield, IA 52556

800-639-4505

www. MadlyInLoveForever.com

www.MadlyInLoveForeverForSingles.com

www.Facebook.com/MadlyInLoveForeverSingles

 

THE EXCITEMENT IS BUILDING!

 

Four weeks from today, I will be leaving the peace and quiet of Fairfield, IA (population 10,000), to give six workshops in six days.  I am looking to connect with three groups of people: men, women and couples (did I leave anyone out?).

One of the workshops is geared exclusively for men, The Power of Presence and Choice.   Let’s face it men, we are the weaker sex and I want to help us check up to the women on this planet.

  • Syracuse, NY on Tuesday, October 9, 7:30pm, CNY Healing      Arts Wellness Center and Spa. 191 Intrepid Lane, Syracuse, NY 13205
  • Albany, NY on Wednesday, October 10, 7:30pm, Albany      area location TBA
  • Bozrah, Connecticut on Saturday, October 13, 1pm, The      Centerspace Wellness Studio 46 Lebanon Road, Bozrah, CT 06334

The second workshop is for men and women, Responsible Speaking, Effective Listening for Deeper Relationships.   In my humble opinion, everyone can benefit from clearer communication.

  • Syracuse, NY on Monday, October 8, 7:30pm, CNY Healing      Arts Wellness Center and Spa. 191 Intrepid Lane, Syracuse, NY 13205
  • Albany, NY on Thursday, October 11, 7:30pm, Unity      Church. 21 King Avenue, Albany, NY 12206

Finally, my week on the road culminates with a workshop for committed couples, Rituals for Intimacy.  Even couples who are Madly In Love Forever will discover a few tricks for nurturing their precious connection.

  • Bozrah, Connecticut on Saturday, October 13, 8pm, The Centerspace Wellness Studio 46 Lebanon Road, Bozrah, CT 06334

I am looking forward to making new friends and re-uniting with old friends.  Although I will only be visiting three cities on this trip, I do plan to visit all fifty states of this great country by the end of 2013.

If you are live near these cities and want to invite me to speak at your group, please call me at 800-639-4505.

Do you want to know about other events near you? Then join this blog list, if you are not already on it.

 

All the best,

Lewis Denbaum

Relationship Success Expert/Author/Educator/Motivational Speaker

PO Box 189

Fairfield, IA 52556

800-639-4505

www. MadlyInLoveForever.com

www.MadlyInLoveForeverForSingles.com

www.Facebook.com/MadlyInLoveForeverSingles

 

” I’m Not Dating, So Why Should I Take a Conscious Dating® Course?”

 

Dating?

You have no idea how often we hear this.  We’ve concluded that we’ve fallen short in explaining the purpose of our Self-Discovery and Ready course.  So here we go.

Dating, like most activities in life, can be improved with education. Our Self-Discovery and Readiness course and its unique approach is ideal PREPARATION for dating.  Actually the perfect time for our course is when you are NOT dating.  Then when you feel the urge to start dating, you will be confident, know what you want and how to get it.  Doesn’t it make sense to take swimming lessons before you jump in the pool?  We’d much rather be your swimming instructors than your life guard/rescuer.

 

” I’m Not Dating, So Why Should I Take a Conscious Dating Course?”

Dating?

You have no idea how often we hear this.  We’ve concluded that we’ve fallen short in explaining the purpose of our Self-Discovery and Ready course.  So here we go.

Dating, like most activities in life, can be improved with education. Our Self-Discovery and Readiness course and its unique approach is ideal PREPARATION for dating.  Actually the perfect time for our course is when you are NOT dating.  Then when you feel the urge to start dating, you will be confident, know what you want and how to get it.  Doesn’t it make sense to take swimming lessons before you jump in the pool?  We’d much rather be your swimming instructors than your life guard/rescuer.

Announcing An 8 Week Conscious Dating Teleseminar

Join our 8 Week Conscious Dating® Self Discovery and Readiness Teleseminar and Discover:

  • Why “dating” doesn’t work
  • Being single is an opportunity, not a disease!
  • How to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem
  • Solid tools and strategies to “Be the Chooser”
  • What you can do when single to prepare for the life and relationship you want
  • How to use Conscious Dating principles and strategies to finally find the love of your life and the life that you love

The Conscious Dating Self Discovery and Readiness Program is an innovative approach to helping singles achieve this most important relationship goal. With all the self- help books for singles, dating “gurus,” and advice from well-meaning friends, dating and finding a partner should be easy. The truth is, and you probably agree, based on your own experience, most singles have a hard time finding lasting love. You need clear, proven strategies and steps to ensure your success. That’s what the Conscious Dating 8 week teleseminar will provide.

For more information go to www.MadlyInLoveForeverForSingles.com/readiness-seminar